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How Are You?
How is your Self Esteem today? Did you know that good Self Esteem is the vital element for Success? Most of us think that our self esteem is just fine, failing to realize that in fact it might be in poor shape. The problem is that low self esteem unknowingly sabotages our best efforts. Good Self Esteem is necessary to succeed at anything.
How do you know how your self esteem is doing? When you feel good about yourself, you have good self esteem. You realize that anything outside yourself is exactly that - outside your Self. You know that your Self is fine. It's the outside that needs fixing. When you can recognize your own worth and know that you have value, nothing anyone can say or do will have any affect on your self esteem. Your feelings can always be hurt. Your self esteem can be hurt only if how you see yourself is determined by someone other than yourself. You know the truth of your worth, and if someone else's opinion of you tries to diminish you in any way, it doesn't matter. Everyone is entitled to his opinion, even when it's wrong.
Low self esteem can be caused by allowing others to put you down and devalue you, or criticizing or condemning yourself for not living up to your own standards. All of us have that little voice in our heads ready at a second's notice to criticize us. The moment we perceive that something is not up to some standard we have set for ourselves, we immediately put ourselves down. Sound self esteem is maintained by not listening to that little voice, by remembering that no matter how badly you think you did, it was the best you could do at that time. We have a tendency to set our standards high, often too high to succeed. Then when we fail to meet our own expectations, we criticize ourselves for failing. There is never any reason for putting yourself down or for any loss of self esteem.
If you can visualize yourself doing something, it is in your power to accomplish it. Conversely, if you can't picture yourself doing something, you never will be able to do it. Don't take the chance that low self esteem may keep you for doing something...maybe even something important like fulfilling your dreams.